MAFS S17 Crash and Bond

In this episode: stolen trauma, fan theories, and the blame game

original air date: 02/14/2024

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SPEAKER_00 0:09

Hi, and welcome to this bonus episode of Assassin's Hips. Today we're talking about season 17, episode Crash and Bond of Married at First Sight. I'm Lisa, and I am sipping on Sangria.

SPEAKER_02 0:27

Once again, I swear to God, Lisa, you are a sangria fiend. To be fair, I know I've said this numerous times. Because I always make extra. Your sangria is amazing. If I made your sangria, I would drink it every week too. So there's that. I wonder if I was. Can I get a flight? I could probably catch a flight. But finish recording, catch a flight, and be there for your game night.

SPEAKER_00 0:54

You didn't want to listen. You know what?

SPEAKER_02 0:57

My dr like I can I like driving long distances. My body sometimes gives out after like hour five or six. Like hour five or six, it gives out. So to be fair. It would have been longer.

SPEAKER_00 1:11

Okay, well, announce yourself. I didn't announce myself. No, you started talking about sangria and flights and your body.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

I have a habit for getting to introduce myself.

SPEAKER_03 1:22

Hi, everybody. Hi, Dr. Nick. I'm Agnes.

SPEAKER_02 1:29

I love what she catches. There's a delay, I guess, when you like when I'm talking, then when you're listening, it's a kind of delay. So it takes a beat and then she just starts laughing. I'm Agnes, and I am drinking my world-famous, my own version of my brown sugar shaken espresso today with Bailey's.

SPEAKER_03 1:52

Ow. Any hot takes, Lisa?

SPEAKER_00 1:57

Here are my quick hot takes. I hope Austin feels stupid. I think Orion was put on the spot. And Brennan is just spouting more of the bullshit, and it's not your trauma. Those are my hot takes.

SPEAKER_03 2:16

Sounds good.

SPEAKER_02 2:16

Let's get to it. Alright. Clara didn't have much to say. She was pretty normal. I don't think she did anything to piss Lisa off this week. No. Not really. Um Emily and Brennan. So the last week when we saw Emily and Brennan, she had had the accident on ATV, and you really couldn't tell. Like, oh my gosh, she crashed. Like I'm thinking when I first saw, oh my gosh, she flipped over. She like I'm thinking. That's what I thought. I thought she flipped it. Don't tell me she wasn't injured. And I don't want to downplay her injury, but I'm glad that it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. That it wasn't bad. Don't get me wrong.

SPEAKER_00 2:56

I have to say it's worse. Yeah. But I but it's worse when when you get to the hospital and you see it's worse because like obviously I thought it was bad and and head wounds always bleed more. But then they're like literally bringing her to the OR. And you know that if they're bringing her to the OR, it's bad because they'll do stitches right in front of I thought. Right.

SPEAKER_02 3:22

That's I was like, why are they doing okay? So that's another thing. I was just curious. Because they don't do stitches in the OR. So I was wondering, was that just a was that just um her? Did they A, we need to go to the OR to get the stitches, or was that just a slip of her just saying something wrong? Like OR meaning like another they might have taken somewhere else cleaner to do the stitches. I don't know. They might have I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 3:48

Was it Yeah, I guess it could be like um I don't want to say outpatiation, but it but it could be like some kind of outpatient procedure room. Right. But I think that it but maybe because you know how they were saying like, oh, she's gonna need plastic surgery and all that. And obviously that's not something that you do there, but but maybe because of how deep it was deeper. Maybe okay, wanted to like put her under for it, and if they have to put you under, I would have to do it. That goes into that is the OR.

SPEAKER_02 4:17

Right.

SPEAKER_00 4:18

Yeah. Okay. So that makes these like oxygen and all the equipment and the the room to have then all these people because they would need an anesthesiologist. And I was just wondering, like, was she really good?

SPEAKER_02 4:29

I'm like, yeah, I didn't think she was lying. I was like, maybe it's a slip of the tongue, and you just like you know, sometimes you're lost.

SPEAKER_00 4:34

No, because every time, like if you go to the hospital and they give you stitches, it's like they do it right there in the ER in the curtain.

SPEAKER_02 4:39

They pull the curtain and keep it. They try to give me a spinal tap in the middle of the ER. I'm like, are you fucking crazy? Right. I'm like, yeah, fuck you and your mama too.

SPEAKER_00 4:47

But but uh I mean, you know, I've I've I've I've brought my daughter because she um a bathroom door in school when she was little, somebody opened the bathroom door into her.

SPEAKER_02 4:58

Oh no, her head.

SPEAKER_00 4:59

Yeah, so she has like a little scar right here. But you but the and it's minute, minute. But if you saw the way it was bleeding, it was five when it or six when it happened. Um but when I took her to the ER, they they glued it shut. It was small enough that they can glue it, but the same thing, like it just it bled so much, but they did it right in front of me. When Alex had to go to the ER with, you know, when he he needed and it was bad and he needed stitches in like a lot of different places. But um, but again, it was like right in front of me, right there in the in the room that he was in. Um every every experience that I've had with someone needing stitches when it's not crazy, crazy, crazy bad has always just been right there, not in an operating room. But I'm guessing it was probably because they had to put her out and there was they're probably worried about something else, or it could be that there's more to it and they don't want to talk about it on the show. I mean, we we just don't know. I mean could be any fair, any of the three. Right. But in the last episode, remember when they were talking about going and Austin was like, Oh, I hope you fall, I hope you crash. Well, he got his wish. So I hope he feels like a total jerk now.

SPEAKER_02 6:28

I have a whole problem with Austin in this whole thing, but we'll get to that later.

SPEAKER_00 6:32

Yeah. Last week you were saying that there was some uh like whatever, uh, viewer fan things about if Austin was gay. Okay, and you were saying how like, oh, because maybe Austin doesn't want to sleep with her because he's gay. But then I was like, could I wonder if that's like a Brennan thing? Brennan thing. And I started to think about it as I put on this episode because I was like, well, Brennan is really like touting this whole friendship thing to the point where he doesn't even want to sleep in the same room as her. And it's like all about the bros. Yeah. And I was already starting to feel that way. And then in the scene where he is talking, when they're doing poker, and he's talking to Michael, and Michael starts talking about the skirt and the earrings, and Brennan was like, Wait, you did that? And how did she receive it? And there was a part of me that was like, Brennan, are you saying this because you're interested or because you're appalled? And we both know that homophobia is really just you trying to hide your own gay shit. But and it really just made me start to wonder like even more if there was something that is brewing inside of him that he can't face. Um so there's that. And then he was like, he was so all up about the conversation about the earrings. And it was like, and how did she take it? And you know, my husband's just like, yeah, you know, and it was fine, and it was blah blah blah blah.

SPEAKER_02 8:17

We should have more on that, but Ren thought, and I got a good chuckle out of it when Brennan they were talking about about the activities they're gonna do together later on, like the next day, about the obstacle course and the whole, you know. And Brennan was like, Yeah, I'm gonna kick your ass, like I'm gonna totally beat you, you know. And Micah was just like, bring it, you know, whatever. And I chuckled because this part I did remember. And I chuckled to myself, and I was like, and then we see what happens, and I love that. He ran into the wall, first of all. He didn't climb up, he ran face first into that wall. Michael dominated everything everything, everything, and it was sexy as fuck. But anyway, it really was, it really was, and watching her be like, that's my man was like my man wore skirts, and I know how I feel about that, but he's sexy as fuck. And then I'm skipping, but you have the bathtub. Yeah, I was it was it did it for me because he was like, This is what us old people do. We soak. No, I was talking about the whole thing is it but his whole demeanor, and he was just really calm and cool, but not cocky, but sh he was just just see, this is how we do it. I was just like, I would have been in that tub five seconds later. I'm surprised that he didn't ask her to join him. I think I was waiting for that. I don't know by editing. I don't know about editing, but I think he had it inviting. And I don't think he I think he wanted her to like it's kind of awkward to ask a woman.

SPEAKER_00 10:01

Yeah, but he doesn't seem like the kind of person who is waiting for her.

SPEAKER_02 10:05

No, I don't think he wanted to make her uncomfortable. So he I guess he wanted to kind of feel her out and see what she was gonna say or how she was gonna do. Because she already said like she like she's tricked, like she's having a difficult time and she's working through it.

SPEAKER_00 10:18

Yeah, but I could have I could have seen him being like this, you know, when he was talking about this tub is a 10, you know, and and it's like the this. I think that was his way to see how she was gonna react. Yeah, but I could have totally seen him say, and and it's spacious, like there's enough room for two people. Yeah, to like put it out there that he was open to without it being, I don't know. All right, but let's finish talking about Brennan and Emily. Brennan calls the group from the hospital, and he's like, Yeah, she had an accident, she's okay, blah, blah, blah. And then I was thinking, and I'm just like, you know, he goes into this whole talking head about the traumatic experience and you know, just shows us what kind of people we are, and blah, blah, blah. And, you know, and she's a warrior and she's this and she, whatever. I feel that if it was almost any other person in the world speaking, I'd be like, oh my God, yeah, absolutely. But Brennan always feels like and she's so positive about things. Yeah. And Brennan always feels like it's lipscreen.

SPEAKER_02 11:29

Remember that. Yeah, it does. But I need you to remember everything he said here today about future episodes. Okay, so great. Take notes.

SPEAKER_00 11:38

And then, but I'm like, in my head, I'm like, yes, obviously, trauma can help bond people, you know, trauma bonding. But I feel that this is not going to go in that direction for Brennan because we didn't even get through the rest of the episode. And he and he's like claiming this trauma for his own. And it's not a competition, and it's and it is traumatic for him also. But this is her trauma. This is something that she is gonna go through and needs you to support her. And every single time you hear him talking about it, it's like, oh, we went through a traumatic event, and uh, you know, we went through a traumatic event, and this has really bonded us. I I feel like the more you talk about it, the more you don't mean it. And if I drank for every time he's talked about how they went through a traumatic event, I would have passed out before the episode was over.

SPEAKER_02 12:40

We've seen several different times where she was hurt, or and she always is like, she gets through it. She's like, you know what? I'm gonna woman up. It's fine. Yes, this happened. I'll get through it, it's fine. I am going to make a statement, maybe as me projecting, that even if it wasn't fine, and I'm pretty sure it's not, like her wrist hurt as her wrist hurt. She fucking had this big ass scar on her forehead. Like she's has done hurts. It's not fine. And I am going to go out and say that she is probably never felt safe, and I mean emotionally safe, yeah, to say, no, I am not okay. No, I need to be taken care of. Back to her father and pushing her to her sports, and she probably couldn't say, hey, I have a torn ACL. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 13:39

No, but it makes a lot of sense because I know that in a lot of ways, I am that same kind of person where I will try to carry everything that I can carry, and I won't, you know, quote unquote burden others. But at the same time, you know, and especially in relation to her, where we know that there's been a difficulty with her father, and now we're seeing the difficulties in her marriage. I know that for me, while I may not run to my father or my husband, I know that I can. And I know that the times that I have had to break down and lean on them, I've only gotten comfort and reassurance and help and support. And that's not clearly what she's used to. And she made a statement where when they were getting ready to leave the hospital, he was like, So do you what do you want to do? Do you want to just go home? And she was like, No, I want to go back to the retreat. Everyone is is there and I can get hugs. And it's like, oh my God, you don't even fucking hug her. Like it I hope that you heard that and hugged her right away. Because I doubt it. I doubt it too. But it was just like one of those little telling comments that are kind of like a one-off, but they're not.

SPEAKER_02 15:10

Nah. He sucks. I want to say that.

SPEAKER_00 15:13

But I don't think I have anything else on them.

SPEAKER_02 15:17

Next couple, Becca and Austin. One thing I have to say about Austin. I think Austin is full of shit. We know what happened the night before. Then she got sick. He's like, Oh, I was hoping tonight that we can get. First of all, that's bullshit. Because if you wanted to work on your intimacy, you never would have changed, walked out the room last night. At the end, he's like, Oh, we know we had a missed opportunity. Maybe we can take tonight. She's like, I'm still fucked up over the first night. No, we can't be intimate. Like, I he's like, Oh, we had now we have to talk about it. And I really want us to just to be, you know, to work on ourselves. No, but it didn't quite happen like that. It was all I feel like it was always going to be, oh, I would have done this. Right. This didn't happen. How convenient. Yeah, that part for sure. There's always something else. Like we so he's full of shit. Bra strokes. I didn't go into detail, so I figured we'll do that later. But that was the bra strokes. Uh how I'm full of shit.

SPEAKER_00 16:23

We talked about in the last episode how the they're going on this retreat with the intent of working on their intimacy. Fine. The first night that they're there, Austin gets out of bed and sleeps in a different room. Weird. Don't really know all the ins and outs, obviously, as a viewer, but supposedly they talked about it. He apologized, they go forward. Then she has this stomach bug. And we all know when you have stomach issues, you feel like shit. The last thing you're thinking about is anything intimacy related because gross. And so I get that that for sure put a damper on their weekend or you know, whatever it was. I assume it's a weekend. Okay. But then after Emily comes back to the house, Becca's like, you know what? I I'm inspired by her. I see how she rallied, and you know, if she could do it, I could do it. Because then they had yoga and and they came out. They didn't participate, but they came out, they were within the crowd. And actually, during yoga, Austin shows up with a sandwich. What the fuck? Like, I love food. I like food just as much as the next person. But you're going to yoga. Why would you bring a sandwich? Either eat your sandwich before or or make it and then have it ready for after. I don't like, don't bring it to yoga. Or if you really need that sandwich, don't participate. But yeah, it was just so strange. And it's like just another example of him just not really taking things seriously and kind of doing what he wants to do. And but so Becca and Emily were sitting on the bench, and at one point she bends down. And I I will give Brandon credit for this though, because he was like, M, M, head up. He was like, that's like the one thing you're not supposed to do. And she's like, oh, okay. And and I I can appreciate that he is watching, but I wonder how much of it is like out of concern versus him having to feel like he's the responsible adult. Because he seems like the kind of guy who can turn it around. Like, oh, if it wasn't for me, like she would, you know, she would have been upside down. Yeah, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 18:53

Yeah. I was kind of hoping that he may not be a good husband, boyfriend material, but I was hoping that he's a good person. So I was just trying to give him the benefit of the channel. Brennan or Austin? Brennan. I'm hoping like he might be a horrible husband/slash boyfriend, but maybe he is not a bad person. He has some kind of concern for her as a decent person. I'm hoping. I'm I'm gonna do a benefit of the dog because it he's just a horrible person all the way around. I just would have to just quit this season.

SPEAKER_03 19:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:29

So then they do the ninja stuff, they go to the ninja warrior, whatever. And after that, they come home and Austin and Becca are having a conversation, and they're once again talking about this intimacy issue. And here is where I am having a flashback of Becca talking about how she doesn't want to be a burden to her husband. Like she wants somebody to be with her who won't feel like she's a burden. And when I first heard her say that towards the beginning of the series, I'm like, it's so sad. Like, that's such a sad statement that she would ever feel like that. But getting to know her, I can understand how maybe people can perceive that because she needy is not really the right word, but it's the word that comes to mind. But once she gets on something, she kind of obsesses over it. You know, for a while it was religion, and now it's the intimacy. And I get it, it's an important thing. Yeah, she's it's probably coming from a place of I don't understand because what's wrong with me? Why don't you want me? But also I could understand how when you're on the receiving end of that, i.e. Austin, it's like, again, are you fucking like what do you want? And it makes it so that you kind of want to pull back and you you you don't want to do this now because you're you are on the spot. But when she expresses her emotion in this moment, and he's like, Well, we can talk about it if you want to talk about it, but like we're really rehashing this again. And and he says how it, you know, he he doesn't like this conversation, blah, blah, blah. However, at the end, it's resolved, and I use resolved loosely, as in she's upset and he's feeling like, you know, we we still had one more night, and I was really hoping, blah, blah, blah, but now I don't think that's gonna happen. You're really just blaming her for having her feelings and talking to you about it, and you're preemptively blaming her and her feelings for you not wanting. To do her tonight. And if you, you know, you're you're trying to sit here and say, oh no, but I was really hoping and this last night, and blah, blah, blah. No, motherfucker. If you still wanted to, you could have very easily walked into that room and said, hey, let's let's cuddle. I don't know, right? I don't know what their intimacy necessarily looks like behind closed doors. You could have made that happen. Because that's all that she fucking wants. You could have made that happen if you actually really wanted to. And the fact that you kind of gaslit her and blamed her is really disgusting.

SPEAKER_02 22:41

I wonder if he I feel like in the middle of cuddling night one, he just got up and left into another room. I think that brought up all the old, like not the old, but it just we so women usually say the same thing over and over again when we don't see a change or any attempt to change or any steps forward. If there's been steps forward, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't have to keep saying the same thing over and over again.

SPEAKER_00 23:11

Yeah. And especially that they were both talking about how this retreat was gonna be what they needed for their intimacy. And they were both looking forward to it and attending to the things that Dr. Keel took. Yeah, and then it's literally the last night and kind of their last chance. And instead of making it happen, you found an excuse, and not just an excuse, but you found an excuse, and then you put the blame on her for your excuse. It's just it's truly, truly disgusting on his part. And it's not fair to her. Because I get it, she keeps talking about it, but she keeps talking about it because you keep finding excuses. And whether they're legit or not is irrelevant. Because clearly she's still talking about it because you're making her feel unwanted. It's it's a circle. But yeah, I don't um at the end of the episode. Right. They supposedly, you know, hmm, he sets up this thing with the wolves to try to make it up to her a little bit. And it's cute. I like wolves, I like animals, and they they seem like they had a good time. And they the thing is, they always seem like they have a good time when they are out and about. It it just only feels difficult when she wants that booty. So I don't know. I don't, you know, they and then the whole thing with the wolves, you know, they they just keep reiterating they depend on their mates to make them happy. And they mate for life, and you know, it's like, okay, yeah, got it. Really trying to tie in together with the married at first sight shit. But yeah, now so now I'm done with them. I don't have anything else for them. I thought that was cute. I want a wolf now. I know we went to the wolf sanctuary out here last year, or the year before, last year. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 25:27

For what's his birthday, right?

SPEAKER_00 25:29

Yeah, and it was it was amazing. It was so nice. Like we were like, oh, we should volunteer. And also, like, one of those wolves were up for adoption. We were like, we should adopt it. But then when we talked, when we looked about like what they eat and how much you'd have to feed them, I'm like, we can't afford that.

SPEAKER_03 25:49

We can't afford did you ever go back to volunteer?

SPEAKER_00 25:53

No, no. And I was like already, like my my my dog is, you know, if I'm sleeping, she's sleeping. If I'm active, she's active. Like, she's a perfect companion. She literally is my shadow. Wolves, I don't think they're gonna care if I want to lay in bed and watch TV. They're gonna be like, no, bitch, we gotta climb walls. Like, we gotta hunt and we gotta run and we gotta scale fences. And I'm gonna be like, fuck, I lost my wolf again.

SPEAKER_02 26:21

Fuck, I lost my wolf again.

SPEAKER_00 26:26

But yeah. Maybe, maybe one day when I have more time to devote to like side things that make me happy. While they're at so Michael and Chloe come to the retreat and they get there. I I think I guess it's the second day, and they're already there after the whole accident happens with Emily. So when they arrive, the rest of them fill them in on what happened, and they're like, Yeah, so it'll they won't be here for dinner. And they have like a chef, and that food looks delicious, and they're having a conversation, and Michael, I think it was the it was maybe the next night or something. I don't know. But anyway, at one point they're at dinner and they're having a conversation, and Michael is very candid and he's like, you know, um, I'm I'm hoping that this is not overstepping, but I'd like to ask you guys about your journey, you know, blah, blah, blah, right? And Orion speaks up and he's saying that their marriage only lasted for 10 days. They were dealing with like some really difficult things that came out, and but that part of the reason for him coming on this retreat was the hope of reconnecting with Lauren and not in a romantic way, but in a way that facilitates them being on the same page as either friends or as the quote-unquote couple that went through this experiment. And then you get a talk inhead of Lauren, who's like, you know, he's really, really good at being that person in front of others. But then when the cameras are not around, there's no communication, he doesn't pull me aside, he doesn't talk to me, nothing. But in fairness, you know, and just to play devil's advocate, I think that I'm okay giving him the benefit of the doubt because Michael kind of put him on the spot. And maybe that is the reason that he came on this retreat. I have no idea. I think the only person who really knows the answer to that is Mike is Orion. And if that's really the reason that he came on, you know what? Maybe, just maybe he was being truthful and he announced it because sometimes there's accountability in announcing. And now that he put it out there, he kind of has to follow through. Uh, so him and Lauren end up having a conversation, and I think that the conversation went as well as can be expected. I think that Lauren was really honest, and she even mentioned that you know, she was like still waiting for his text back then. And I was like, I knew it because I see a lot of myself in her. And I would Yeah, you called it Lisa. I would have been. She a hundred percent would have tried again to make it work because I think she and I are a lot alike and that we really try to see the best parts of other people and give people the benefit of the doubt, even sometimes when they don't deserve it. She was very, very fair in saying that she is open to whatever he's looking for in terms of building this new version of their relationship, however. And I was like, Yes, yes. She asked if she could drive this, because he said, Can I text you? Um, I forgot what the time frame was. But she said, is it okay if I drive this? Because I'm not sure what I need right now. And I thought that was brilliant on her part. Because I think that she knows herself well enough to know that if not, she may get caught up again. And I think that she obviously uh rationally is aware of that fact and doesn't want it. But I think that overall I'm okay with how they ended things. And I and I'd like to think that with the amount of time that Ryan has uh Ryan, O'Ryan has had to process his feelings for her and to process how things have gone, not just for her, but for the other couples, for him. I wonder if he's really starting to see that, yeah, it's hard for everyone. And especially how we and Michael have been so forthcoming about no, we made communication like we're strangers, and we made communication priority number one from minute one. So I wonder if that has been a help for the other couples to see that it's all hard, it takes a lot, but especially for them, because that was kind they were doing well with the communication until she said the wrong thing and then he shut down. So I'm right hopeful for his sake and for their sake, however the they looks like, that he has come to the mind frame that it's hard for everyone, and you you kind of weren't willing to put in the work that everyone else was putting in. And maybe he he sees his part in it, which can only help going forward to for them to form a bond, whether that's associates, friends, or possibly husband and wife laboratory and life, who knows? But I think that it's a good foundation if he truly means it.

SPEAKER_02 32:50

Um yeah, I think once he's off camera, he's gonna go back into um we won't know he's there.

SPEAKER_03 33:02

And I think he's I think he's I think he talks a good game.

SPEAKER_00 33:07

I think that's a very distinct possibility. So I you know, I don't know where this road will take them, but I I'm trying to be as positive and as giving of the benefit of the doubt as I can be.

SPEAKER_03 33:25

But you know he makes it difficult.

SPEAKER_00 33:30

He does, yeah. He does because he truly does say all the right things, but then clearly he's his actions are are not matching.

SPEAKER_02 33:41

So he's full of shit. Okay. I feel like all the dudes here are full of shit. Full of caca. Now, I don't have I don't have anything for Lauren and Orion. You have anything to add? Anything else to add before I move on to our favorite person? Okay, our favorite couple, Michael and Chloe. We already know how hot he looks in the bathtub and how hot he is in doing the ninja warrior thing. Chloe still seems a little unsure of the certain aspects of how Michael presents himself that she's like, I don't know how I feel about this. She's not against it, but she's like, I don't know if this is something that I cock with either. My motherfucker has been sexy too, which is fair. But you know, I I applaud her for seeing and recognizing what's important.

SPEAKER_00 34:36

In the last episode, you talked about how people online or whatever were giving her shit because of the way she was handling it. And I was like, Yeah, but you know, whatever. But in this episode, but watching this episode, I can see it a little bit more because she's she's making some comments, and even when she's talking to the ladies when they were doing like the little spa stuff, and Lauren was like, Sometimes you just have to say that something is triggering you, and you know, so I can see that it is something that's bothering her, but what I also see is that she's struggling to understand and to accept it because she wants to, not because she doesn't want to. And it's a really, really hard line to walk. It is something completely new to her. She admits it, and she's attracted to him, and she's seeming to really, really like and appreciate the person who he is, but this is one facet that she's struggling with. And I don't I don't like I don't know what advice I could give her, except not that she's asking me, but you know what I mean. It's like, what do you do? Right? Is it do we take a page out of Dr. Cohen's book, right? You know, and if if you have a hundred things, but if you get 50 of them, that's your person. I mean, you know, it's it's a really hard thing when this person is doing something so far out of your comfort zone. How do you resolve that? And I have to say, Michael's outfits remind me of when I used to let my kids dress themselves when they were little. You know, six years old. Yeah, get yourself ready for school today. And then they did. And I'd be like, oh my god. But you know what? Fine. If it's if it's weather appropriate, we'll rock it. You know what? You you do you, girl. So I don't know. I think I think that she wants to be okay with it, but it's definitely a challenge. And I don't, you know, maybe I'm wrong, but we'll s we'll see, I guess. Well I'll see, because you already saw.

SPEAKER_02 37:27

Yeah, a long time ago. I'm not gonna remember shit.

SPEAKER_00 37:33

But you say that, yet you're like, oh, remember that she said this. So I don't know. I think I think you like to hustle me.

SPEAKER_02 37:40

I remember something. I remember the the big picture stuff. I don't remember like the nuances.

SPEAKER_00 37:50

Alright. I mean, I don't have anything else really for this, um, except for yeah, neither do me. Well, that's gonna do it for this episode. Okay. Thank you for being on the subscription feed. Thank you for hanging out with us and listening to this episode. Don't forget to go to assassinsips.com for all the ways to connect with us. We remind you, as always, to drink responsibly and not to drink and drive. And until next time, I'm Lisa.

SPEAKER_02 38:23

And I'm Agnes, and we are out of here. See you later. Bye!